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Bonding-Attunement, Parenting

Carly 9 Weeks

What I learned today with Carly Elizabeth – Nine weeks old

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Michael

In the quiet moments when Carly melts into my arms there is attunement, resonance, shared meaning, trust, respect, appreciation, curiosity, wonder, all moving, changing and so much more, embodied, nonverbal, silent. This silent, reciprocal attunement is the essence of bonded-attachment ...

Carly Social Is Sensory

What I Learned From Carly Today

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Michael

This rude awakening came as quite a surprise, shocking really. The sun, moon, planets and every living thing does not revolve around me. Life is reciprocal. The more we naturally give to life, the more life nurtures and empowers us. ...

At One Month

What I Learned Today

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Michael

I wonder if all parents experience the awe, this unimaginable complexity and mysterious unfolding? How is it possible? The union of two cells explode and become Carly Elizabeth; heart beating, ten fingers and ten toes, deep gray-blue eyes, sensing, learning, ...

Resonance

Bonding Is Resonance – Resonance is Life

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Michael

The weaver becomes the web. The more we relate to dead things the less alive we become. Emerson made this simple observation as the industrial revolution was pouring across the globe. The environment shapes development. Development shapes perception. Perception shapes ...

Not Broken

Not Broken Don’t Bond It

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Michael

The point is maintaining relationship – not connecting something that is broken. The terms bonding and attachment imply separation, to bond, connect, glue together separate parts. Life is relationship. We are never separate, except in our minds. We are the ...