Male Vulnerability and Violence

Male Vulnerability and Violence
Joseph Chilton Pearce

Males are aborted much or frequently than females. They suffer more birth defects and psychological challenges. In non-industrialized societies the relationship between the lack of early nurturing of male children and later adult male violence is recognized. Joe describes why males are more vulnerable and how this leads to violence.

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Guns, Bonding and Addiction

By some measure violence is down. The sensational home run violence, mass shootings are up, along with the exponential increase of SWAT teams using military armaments and shock-and-awe tactics against living room poker games.

The less bonded we feel to other human beings, nature and the environment the more likely we are to feel defensive and in a completely industrial, virtual, technological society, the quicker we reach for that .38 tucked under the pillow.

Themes: 
bonding
violence

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Imagination and Violence
Joseph Chilton Pearce

Our most chronic young criminals often have no capacity for internal imaging. Lacking this they must resort to primitive, physical, sensory motor, reflexive responses to the world, which is often violent. Children who develop imagination when confronted with a challenge can imagine an alternative to it, often a nonviolent alternative. The Swedish Pediatric Institute confirmed that the more developed a child’s imagination the less violent the child is. Again, video and computer images, screen time, retards the development of true imagination. Plus the violent images on the screen stimulate a corresponding physical response in the child, a one-two devolutionary punch.

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Bonding or Violence
Joseph Chilton Pearce

The nurturing of children during the first three years of life determines the peaceful or violent nature of any given culture.The United States has the largest prison system in the world which is directly related to the failure of nurturing in early childhood. Sweden listened to the child development research and reaped the most peaceful most egalitarian population and culture saving billions in crime, addiction police and prison. The way we treat babies and infants is the way those children grow up and treat the world.

We have an example of a nation of people that listened to what the science of human development was telling them about early nurturing and that was Sweden.  The Swedish Pediatrics Group reported to their government many years ago that the nurturing of an infant from birth on, the first three years particularly, was the most crucial point of life. And that if the mother would stay home and nurture their child during that time it would save the state a great deal of money, because their whole penal system, their law enforcement process, their legalistic systems and so forth could be all but abolished.

The same thing Jim Prescott was telling our government, in effect a number of years ago.  Sweden employed this and began to pay mothers to stay home for the first year of a child’s life.  Within a generation it had saved them such a huge amount of money in crime and violence that they extended to either mother or father for the first year of life and have now extended it for three years. Why? Simply because it was economically the only feasible thing to do.  It saved the government such a huge amount of money that they could pay every mother payment to stay home with their infants in that first critical period.  

Now in our country we have at least two million of our fellow citizens in prison, it caused an average of $30,000 a year to keep one in prison.  It cost upwards of $100,000 in hidden costs just to put them in prison and yet here’s one of the largest single outlays of money we have which is not recognized because it’s broken down over many different levels; city wide taxes, county taxes, state taxes and finally government taxes are all involved in the penal system in this country.  Where it all lumped together you would have a sum which would dwarf defense, medicine, education and so on and so forth, a really huge outlay of money.  


Whereas it cost $30,000, and far more in certain situations, to keep a prisoner in prison for one year, the same amount of money can support a mother to stay home with her infant for that critical first year and could even pay for a little bit of education to tell her what she might do to help the situation along.  We would be in line to save ourselves huge, huge sums of money by the simple preventative act of literally hiring women to stay home.

As it is we’re threatening them with jail if they don’t go out and get a job and put their infant in daycare and so forth and so on.  So it’s a completely irrational procedure that we followed.  Burton White, Harvard University, a very famous developmental scientist, turned out a book in 1974-75 called “The First Three Years of Lie” and he stated categorically, “the first three years of life determine everything that’s going to happen from that point on.”  It was considered so terribly important that he was asked to address the United States Senate on the issue and he did.  And of course we all thought oh boy, now our government will wake up and do what is necessary and of course it never even heard him at all.  He was not heard on any level.
 

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Male Vulnerability and Violence
Joseph Chilton Pearce

Why do we as individuals and nations seek revenge rather than forgiveness? The United States is one of the most violent nations. Is this because our children and especially male children are under nurtured? Clearly the roots of violence are planted very early. Culture is a survival system. Culture is imprinted in the early child through guilt, shame and fear. Do this or else. Parenting is for the most part the imprinting of culture rather than nurturing the child’s unique qualities.

What is it about our makeup that would rather have revenge than anything else?  Why is it that the whole nation, the whole United States went into an almost euphoria of good feeling, of camaraderie, of comradeship, each supporting and loving the other following the Twin Towers disaster in New York?  Simply because, all of the sudden our National rage had a single target against which it could throw its rage, it could project its rage, take the rage out of self and project it on someone else.  We finally had an individual we could demonize, hold him up as the Satan of the world and organize all of their energies against that satanic force. And it brought about this tremendous brotherhood that had begun to seriously erode in America as we were taking that violence and turning it only against each other; all the children taking guns to school, suicide being the third highest cause of death in American children, all the rest of the parade of atrocities against ourselves and suddenly we have an enemy out there that we can vent all that rage and hostility against.

And so this very factor has been brought to our attention by many scholars.  I think of Gil Bailey and Renee Gerard, the great Philosopher from France who’s now at the university out in California, can’t think of the name -Stanford.  But they did a study and found that culture is fundamentally a survival technique or a survival practice by a whole society of people.  

Anthropologists claim that culture has its foundations in survival intelligence. Culture is based on survival techniques we develop as parents and pass on to our children with the assumption that they would not be able to survive without our training in survival processes.  And so suddenly, if you look at it you will find that every facet of culture is based on survival and backed up with reciprocity, with recrimination or, not revenge but justice if you don’t follow our cultural survival practices.  And culture is inculcated into an infant child and then a person, an adult, through guilt and shame and fear.  Guilt, shame and fear are the three processes by which culture enculturates each new member born into it.  Do this or else you will suffer the consequences and that’s what the infant hears practically from the beginning of life.  

Alan Shore and that remarkable study of his, he spent twelve years on this book, on just this enculturation process itself and how only through shame can we make the child respond culturally, not socially but we’re really talking about culturally.  And all cultures have various ways of inflicting shame on the developing child to make him obey the cultural morays, rules and regulations and so on.  So we find that culture then responds to anyone who will not follow the enculturated rules and regulations, always by revenge.  The culture takes revenge against them.  We always cloak revenge as being justice.  The culture must achieve justice and justice always means blood revenge against someone who transgresses our cultural safety zone, you might say.

So the idea of justice, judgment against each other, law to back it up and so on, all of these of cultural functions growing out of survival reflexes and all survival reflexes generate through or around the ancient reptilian reflexive brain, our sensory motor brain that starts in the very beginning.

And so we find that through enculturation we end up essentially identified as people with our ancient survival brain and not identified with the highest human cortices, the human brain.  No, we’re not identified with that, we’re identified culturally, means we’re identifying with our survival instincts and reflexes in the two animal brain structures.

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Male Vulnerability
Joseph Chilton Pearce

Early trauma to young males can be reversed by nurturing and by supplying the missed developmental experiences.
Nature opens and develops capacities on schedule regardless of the current stage is complete or not. Males being more vulnerable means that gaps in development occur more often resulting in mal adapted behavior. Experience shows that going back and providing the missed nurturing and missed developmental stimulus will fill in the gaps resulting in a fully developed psyche. Remediation however is never as good or complete as providing the nurturing-experience in its age and stage appropriate sequence.

The procedures that have been used with adolescent males that seem to work pretty well, these procedures follow pretty well more or less the format of Waldorf education for children in which these tough young males are read to, they’re told stories, they’re caught up in the stories and encouraged to act the stories out, the end up by in large literate from this one activity of being read stories and acting stories out.  They begin to really learn to play for the first time in their life.  They’ve never been played with or learned to play and play is largely metaphoric symbolic in its structure.  When you’re acting out a story on stage you’re taking on a role and acting out a story, you’re really dealing with high level symbolism and metaphor and things like that which are the creative parts of the brain and they’re being acted out with the body and the whole emotional system involved in it.  So all three brains are intimately connected in that,

And we find that taking them simply back through these stages of childhood. It’s not all the way back to infancy. That’s pretty hard to do but at least going back into that earlier period of childhood when the child loves storytelling, play acting and just play in general so very deeply because it fills developmental needs and taking these young people and putting them into that situation has had marvelous results, therapeutic results, transformative results, patching them back up.

Marian Diamond, PhD, one of our great Neural Scientists, points out the brain’s highly flexible, plastic. It can be changed, transformed and can actually grow new material right up until the last moment of life provided it’s challenged. But you have to know how to challenge the brain in that respect but any brain is transformative or it can be repaired.  Now to what extent, you don’t know, but at least probably to the extent that an individual can function socially very well and be far, far happier as a person.

Now, to bring that about probably requires nurturing and nurturing is the last thing they get in prison. They can’t nurture each other any more than two infants can model for each other or nurture for each other.  It doesn’t work that way.  So prisons are diametrically opposed to the very thing they’re supposed to be doing which is rehabilitation.  They can’t rehabilitate.  The whole idea is profoundly wrong to begin with and based only on retribution, revenge, taking the societies revenge out against their scape goats. The whole idea is so terribly flawed. There is no solution within a prison situation.  That’s one of the reasons we used to have, and I don’t know the current statistics, about a 94% recidivism rate, that is those prisons paroled, pardoned, finally let out will have about a 94%-96% return to prison.  Why, because nothing has changed and so we would rather spend all those huge sums of money in revenge, our revenge against them than we would in really trying to rehabilitate them which would take a different form, a different attitude and a completely different approach than prison itself.

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Male Vulnerability
Joseph Chilton Pearce

Nature invests more strength and stability in the source of reproduction which is female leaving the male species more vulnerable in every respect, except muscle mass. The un-nurtured male therefore is more easily damaged emotionally, psychologically which expresses as depression, addiction, rage and violence. Biologically males require greater nurturing, and are more vulnerable than females.

This research began to appear back in the 60’s and 70’s.  It was called the best kept secret in biological history; the fact that the life process itself, just biology itself, is what would be called essentially feminine to begin with, that it’s a reproductive process, a self-reproductive process.  Nature’s invention of the male was kind of a deviancy from this baseline and was a difficult feat to bring about, introducing the whole idea of sexual reproduction and so forth, introduced a variable in an otherwise very stable reproductive system and that variable we would call the male and the stable system is generated towards the female.

Now in-utero, from the moment of conception on, there are a number of basic abortion periods, natural abortion periods.  One is within the first 8-10 days after birth in which if the heart cells don’t form, don’t start beginning to reproduce and so on nature will spontaneously abort.  The next one is somewhere around the 8th to 10th week when the brain really begins its growth and formation. If the heart structure and everything isn’t just right nature will spontaneously abort.  And the next one is around the 5th month when real brain activity is beginning.  Language begins at six months in-utero and so on.  And then the 7th month is another very critical period of development and you have a high percentage of abortions in the seventh month.  And then finally at birth you have a certain number of aborted births; still births or highly dysfunctional children who are born missing all sorts of parts and so on.

Looking at that whole thing and taking what you’ve discovered from the eighth week on, looking at the very beginning, the first critical abortion period; eighty percent of all natural spontaneous abortions are of male fetuses, infants or children at birth, eighty percent.  Eighty percent of all dysfunctional children at birth are males.  Eighty percent of all your autistic children, your schizophrenic children, your children missing various eccentric parts and so on will be males which means essentially it’s much harder for nature to produce a male than it is a female.

In preliterate societies before modern processes move in women always nursed, breastfed, their male infants a full year longer than their female infants.  Why, because the male infants were more fragile and were less able to cope with the world out there as soon as their female infants.

Looking quickly at the suicide rate in American children at present, male suicides far outweigh female suicides.  Females attempts at suicide might outnumber males but the males have succeeded in suicide far outweigh females.  One final thing on that is more males are born into the world than females by a surprising percentage and yet far more females achieve maturity than males do.  That is the males simply don’t survive the maturity as well as females.  This gives rise to Ashley Montague’s, one of the things giving rise to his great book “The Natural Superiority of Women,” which means simply that the female process, the self-reproduction system is the baseline of life and easier for nature to establish and the male is more difficult.

Bearing that in mind we realize the male has to have more nurturing than the female.  Whereas our cultural attitude is exactly the opposite.  We feel the male has got to be toughened up, he’s got to get out there and slug it out in the jungle and you can’t nurture the male like you do a female or he’ll be a softy and we won’t survive.  Now what we’re not surviving is the production of males who are brought up just that way.  They’re not nurtured and so they grow up angry, feeling betrayed, hostile and angry particularly towards women themselves because they were not nurtured earlier.  So that’s absolutely counter-productive.  It works completely against us.

We find this exemplified in two ancient fairy tales. What happens to the male if he isn’t nurtured> He reverts back to his animal status.  He goes back into that reflexive hind brain defending itself.  And this is represented by the King who just pulled some wrong things and he ends up in a beast’s body.  He can’t extricate himself from the body of the beast.  The only thing that will do that is the nurturing kiss of the beauty.  So we have the great tale The Beauty and the Beast.  She’s the only one who can bail the King out of his sentence, his terrifying sentence, back into his animal nature.

And the other aspect of this is the Frog Prince who has the same thing happen.  He finds himself in a reptilian amphibian body, a frog’s body, and he can’t extricate himself from that.  Only the beautiful princess can extricate him. Both the princess and the beauty extricate the King or the Prince by their nurturing kiss, not just sexual kiss, their nurturing kiss is what lifts them out of their sentence into their animal nature.  And we’d better think about that real clearly when we’re looking at what’s happening in our world today.  The male can’t extricate himself out of the mess he’s in right now, the violence, the anger, the massagenism, the terrorism that he’s creating, only she can do that.

Violence is Failed Bonding/Attachment - Continued


 

Violence is Failed Bonding/Attachment - Continued
Two key points: violence, along with a long list of other maladies; depression, ADHD, addiction, chronic stress related diseases, child abuse, domestic violence and rape are expressions of failed or impaired attachment AND the biological fact that males are more vulnerable than females focus our attention sharply. At least it should, but often doesn’t, which is indeed curious. For some strange reason the closer we tread to the heart of violence the more our attention is distracted, rendering us less capable of embracing and embodying the truth.

Themes: 
abuse-neglect
bonding
brain
pleasure
violence

Violence is a Failure of Bonding/Attachment

bonding and violence


We, or at least I, often rationalize violence. After all, it is normal to pound a fist or scream when frustrated and angry. Anger is normal. Einstein’s protégée, David Bohm, defined violence as any excessive use of force. Slamming a car door when one could gently close it. Violence is natural. Or is it?

Applying Gabor Mate’s insight into addictions: The question isn’t why the addiction. The real question is; why the pain?

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Themes: 
abuse-neglect
bonding
brain
violence

Violence In The Name Of God

GENDER EQUALITY OF HUMAN RIGHTS and REPRESENTATION 
AMENDMENT TO THE U.S. CONSTITUTION

E-Mail correspondence below calls for a different priority.

Rabbi Lerner—It is time to launch an “agonizing reappraisal” of the destructive role that religious institutions have had upon Humanity.

The continuing violence against women and her children throughout human history must be understood within a religious framework. Transforming Cultures of Violence into Cultures of Peace is not possible without a transformation of values and assumptions of gender inequality inherent in religious theology.

So God created man in his own image; in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. (Genesis 1:27-29).

Themes: 
culture
pleasure
shame
violence

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