High Risk, All Grown Up - Commentary

Themes: 
male vulnerability
violence
sexual violence

Of Course the Predators Ate Him

Fight-Flight is a fear-startle reflex emerging deep in the sensory motor brain, the so called ancient ‘reptilian’ brain. The pursuit of egotistic gratification turned predator, sexual or otherwise, is not fight-flight, rather, patterns of violence embedded early in the formation of the ego or social-emotional self-image, what we generally refer to as ego.

Themes: 
bonding
sexual violence
male vulnerability

Celebrating Joseph Chilton Pearce

As we continue Joe develops a number of themes all centering on the long term consequences of not being nurtured. ‘The child who is nurtured and bonded and given that safe space from the earliest developmental period can move away from the safe space carrying that same state of mind with him and is ready to move on into the higher realms of human possibility.  Whereas the majority of us lacking that safe space never move on. We try to repair or build for ourselves the safe space to be.  It’s a safe space that we either carry with us and are - or not at all, yet we are trained to believe we can create the safe space by following all the appropriate cultural directives and every cultural directive drives us into an ever increasing unsafe positions and we feel more and more threatened by the world.’ Here again, Joe turns our cultural assumptions upside down. Rather than culture being the sanctuary it pretends to be, culture is the source of our greatest trauma and pain.

Michael Mendizza

Themes: 
male vulnerability
culture

Celebrating Josephh Chilton Pearce

Continuing to focus on the way culture shapes our reality Joe notes: ‘One of the things that culture brings about is the idea that without its guiding filters we would be like beasts in the forest, savage, uncivilized, murderous, etc. The truth of the matter is, culture is what makes us savage, vicious, murderous, war after war after war because of the restrictions and restraints imposed by culture. Both neural scientist James Neal and Alan Shore question: “Will we survive the current situation?” And both Neal and Shore, said “Only if we can produce males capable of nurturing their offspring.” And this sets the stage for a radically different view of the nurturing role of males.

Michael Mendizza

Themes: 
culture
violence
male vulnerability

Male Vulnerability and Violence

Male Vulnerability and Violence
Joseph Chilton Pearce

Males are aborted much or frequently than females. They suffer more birth defects and psychological challenges. In non-industrialized societies the relationship between the lack of early nurturing of male children and later adult male violence is recognized. Joe describes why males are more vulnerable and how this leads to violence.

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Male Vulnerability and Violence
Joseph Chilton Pearce

Why do we as individuals and nations seek revenge rather than forgiveness? The United States is one of the most violent nations. Is this because our children and especially male children are under nurtured? Clearly the roots of violence are planted very early. Culture is a survival system. Culture is imprinted in the early child through guilt, shame and fear. Do this or else. Parenting is for the most part the imprinting of culture rather than nurturing the child’s unique qualities.

What is it about our makeup that would rather have revenge than anything else?  Why is it that the whole nation, the whole United States went into an almost euphoria of good feeling, of camaraderie, of comradeship, each supporting and loving the other following the Twin Towers disaster in New York?  Simply because, all of the sudden our National rage had a single target against which it could throw its rage, it could project its rage, take the rage out of self and project it on someone else.  We finally had an individual we could demonize, hold him up as the Satan of the world and organize all of their energies against that satanic force. And it brought about this tremendous brotherhood that had begun to seriously erode in America as we were taking that violence and turning it only against each other; all the children taking guns to school, suicide being the third highest cause of death in American children, all the rest of the parade of atrocities against ourselves and suddenly we have an enemy out there that we can vent all that rage and hostility against.

And so this very factor has been brought to our attention by many scholars.  I think of Gil Bailey and Renee Gerard, the great Philosopher from France who’s now at the university out in California, can’t think of the name -Stanford.  But they did a study and found that culture is fundamentally a survival technique or a survival practice by a whole society of people.  

Anthropologists claim that culture has its foundations in survival intelligence. Culture is based on survival techniques we develop as parents and pass on to our children with the assumption that they would not be able to survive without our training in survival processes.  And so suddenly, if you look at it you will find that every facet of culture is based on survival and backed up with reciprocity, with recrimination or, not revenge but justice if you don’t follow our cultural survival practices.  And culture is inculcated into an infant child and then a person, an adult, through guilt and shame and fear.  Guilt, shame and fear are the three processes by which culture enculturates each new member born into it.  Do this or else you will suffer the consequences and that’s what the infant hears practically from the beginning of life.  

Alan Shore and that remarkable study of his, he spent twelve years on this book, on just this enculturation process itself and how only through shame can we make the child respond culturally, not socially but we’re really talking about culturally.  And all cultures have various ways of inflicting shame on the developing child to make him obey the cultural morays, rules and regulations and so on.  So we find that culture then responds to anyone who will not follow the enculturated rules and regulations, always by revenge.  The culture takes revenge against them.  We always cloak revenge as being justice.  The culture must achieve justice and justice always means blood revenge against someone who transgresses our cultural safety zone, you might say.

So the idea of justice, judgment against each other, law to back it up and so on, all of these of cultural functions growing out of survival reflexes and all survival reflexes generate through or around the ancient reptilian reflexive brain, our sensory motor brain that starts in the very beginning.

And so we find that through enculturation we end up essentially identified as people with our ancient survival brain and not identified with the highest human cortices, the human brain.  No, we’re not identified with that, we’re identified culturally, means we’re identifying with our survival instincts and reflexes in the two animal brain structures.

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Male Vulnerability
Joseph Chilton Pearce

Early trauma to young males can be reversed by nurturing and by supplying the missed developmental experiences.
Nature opens and develops capacities on schedule regardless of the current stage is complete or not. Males being more vulnerable means that gaps in development occur more often resulting in mal adapted behavior. Experience shows that going back and providing the missed nurturing and missed developmental stimulus will fill in the gaps resulting in a fully developed psyche. Remediation however is never as good or complete as providing the nurturing-experience in its age and stage appropriate sequence.

The procedures that have been used with adolescent males that seem to work pretty well, these procedures follow pretty well more or less the format of Waldorf education for children in which these tough young males are read to, they’re told stories, they’re caught up in the stories and encouraged to act the stories out, the end up by in large literate from this one activity of being read stories and acting stories out.  They begin to really learn to play for the first time in their life.  They’ve never been played with or learned to play and play is largely metaphoric symbolic in its structure.  When you’re acting out a story on stage you’re taking on a role and acting out a story, you’re really dealing with high level symbolism and metaphor and things like that which are the creative parts of the brain and they’re being acted out with the body and the whole emotional system involved in it.  So all three brains are intimately connected in that,

And we find that taking them simply back through these stages of childhood. It’s not all the way back to infancy. That’s pretty hard to do but at least going back into that earlier period of childhood when the child loves storytelling, play acting and just play in general so very deeply because it fills developmental needs and taking these young people and putting them into that situation has had marvelous results, therapeutic results, transformative results, patching them back up.

Marian Diamond, PhD, one of our great Neural Scientists, points out the brain’s highly flexible, plastic. It can be changed, transformed and can actually grow new material right up until the last moment of life provided it’s challenged. But you have to know how to challenge the brain in that respect but any brain is transformative or it can be repaired.  Now to what extent, you don’t know, but at least probably to the extent that an individual can function socially very well and be far, far happier as a person.

Now, to bring that about probably requires nurturing and nurturing is the last thing they get in prison. They can’t nurture each other any more than two infants can model for each other or nurture for each other.  It doesn’t work that way.  So prisons are diametrically opposed to the very thing they’re supposed to be doing which is rehabilitation.  They can’t rehabilitate.  The whole idea is profoundly wrong to begin with and based only on retribution, revenge, taking the societies revenge out against their scape goats. The whole idea is so terribly flawed. There is no solution within a prison situation.  That’s one of the reasons we used to have, and I don’t know the current statistics, about a 94% recidivism rate, that is those prisons paroled, pardoned, finally let out will have about a 94%-96% return to prison.  Why, because nothing has changed and so we would rather spend all those huge sums of money in revenge, our revenge against them than we would in really trying to rehabilitate them which would take a different form, a different attitude and a completely different approach than prison itself.

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Male Vulnerability
Joseph Chilton Pearce

Nature invests more strength and stability in the source of reproduction which is female leaving the male species more vulnerable in every respect, except muscle mass. The un-nurtured male therefore is more easily damaged emotionally, psychologically which expresses as depression, addiction, rage and violence. Biologically males require greater nurturing, and are more vulnerable than females.

This research began to appear back in the 60’s and 70’s.  It was called the best kept secret in biological history; the fact that the life process itself, just biology itself, is what would be called essentially feminine to begin with, that it’s a reproductive process, a self-reproductive process.  Nature’s invention of the male was kind of a deviancy from this baseline and was a difficult feat to bring about, introducing the whole idea of sexual reproduction and so forth, introduced a variable in an otherwise very stable reproductive system and that variable we would call the male and the stable system is generated towards the female.

Now in-utero, from the moment of conception on, there are a number of basic abortion periods, natural abortion periods.  One is within the first 8-10 days after birth in which if the heart cells don’t form, don’t start beginning to reproduce and so on nature will spontaneously abort.  The next one is somewhere around the 8th to 10th week when the brain really begins its growth and formation. If the heart structure and everything isn’t just right nature will spontaneously abort.  And the next one is around the 5th month when real brain activity is beginning.  Language begins at six months in-utero and so on.  And then the 7th month is another very critical period of development and you have a high percentage of abortions in the seventh month.  And then finally at birth you have a certain number of aborted births; still births or highly dysfunctional children who are born missing all sorts of parts and so on.

Looking at that whole thing and taking what you’ve discovered from the eighth week on, looking at the very beginning, the first critical abortion period; eighty percent of all natural spontaneous abortions are of male fetuses, infants or children at birth, eighty percent.  Eighty percent of all dysfunctional children at birth are males.  Eighty percent of all your autistic children, your schizophrenic children, your children missing various eccentric parts and so on will be males which means essentially it’s much harder for nature to produce a male than it is a female.

In preliterate societies before modern processes move in women always nursed, breastfed, their male infants a full year longer than their female infants.  Why, because the male infants were more fragile and were less able to cope with the world out there as soon as their female infants.

Looking quickly at the suicide rate in American children at present, male suicides far outweigh female suicides.  Females attempts at suicide might outnumber males but the males have succeeded in suicide far outweigh females.  One final thing on that is more males are born into the world than females by a surprising percentage and yet far more females achieve maturity than males do.  That is the males simply don’t survive the maturity as well as females.  This gives rise to Ashley Montague’s, one of the things giving rise to his great book “The Natural Superiority of Women,” which means simply that the female process, the self-reproduction system is the baseline of life and easier for nature to establish and the male is more difficult.

Bearing that in mind we realize the male has to have more nurturing than the female.  Whereas our cultural attitude is exactly the opposite.  We feel the male has got to be toughened up, he’s got to get out there and slug it out in the jungle and you can’t nurture the male like you do a female or he’ll be a softy and we won’t survive.  Now what we’re not surviving is the production of males who are brought up just that way.  They’re not nurtured and so they grow up angry, feeling betrayed, hostile and angry particularly towards women themselves because they were not nurtured earlier.  So that’s absolutely counter-productive.  It works completely against us.

We find this exemplified in two ancient fairy tales. What happens to the male if he isn’t nurtured> He reverts back to his animal status.  He goes back into that reflexive hind brain defending itself.  And this is represented by the King who just pulled some wrong things and he ends up in a beast’s body.  He can’t extricate himself from the body of the beast.  The only thing that will do that is the nurturing kiss of the beauty.  So we have the great tale The Beauty and the Beast.  She’s the only one who can bail the King out of his sentence, his terrifying sentence, back into his animal nature.

And the other aspect of this is the Frog Prince who has the same thing happen.  He finds himself in a reptilian amphibian body, a frog’s body, and he can’t extricate himself from that.  Only the beautiful princess can extricate him. Both the princess and the beauty extricate the King or the Prince by their nurturing kiss, not just sexual kiss, their nurturing kiss is what lifts them out of their sentence into their animal nature.  And we’d better think about that real clearly when we’re looking at what’s happening in our world today.  The male can’t extricate himself out of the mess he’s in right now, the violence, the anger, the massagenism, the terrorism that he’s creating, only she can do that.