Beyound Adolescence

Author: 
Joseph Chilton Pearce

In this program we are going stretch our limits by discovering completely new ways to look at our young adults. Joseph Chilton Pearce will challenge us along with a group of parents, educators and health care providers, by asking that we consider that adolescence might actually be very different from what we think it is. He suggests that adolescence may really be cumulative effect of both false education and a failure to fully develop our full potential.

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Bonding, Culture and Survival
Joseph Chilton Pearce

Bonding is a biological process. Direct, skin to skin contact immediately after birth activates in the mother the ancient species survival reflex.This opens and develops strengthens and capacities that she has not needed before, abilities to attune to the infant on many levels. She is driven by a tremendous genetic drive to insure the wellbeing of the child. Intimate interaction correspondingly activates the infant’s innate intelligence. Mother and infant are awakening in the other the unique and exact capacities needed for each to fulfill nature’s agenda of optimum development of the species. Each is taking their cues from the other. Inhibit, retard, break this reciprocal intimate relationship and both mother and child pay a heavy price, as does the culture.
 

In a biological process, not a sentimental or an emotion or an intellectual, a biological response to that which has been established in-utero or a reconfirming of that established in-utero and it’s found that when the mother interacts with the infant on a skin to skin contact right after birth that it actually awakens, activates in the mother’s emotional cognitive brain what is called the ancient species survival extinct.  And it gives her a capacity and ability that she has never needed before, of tuning into the infant on many, many different levels and responding to the infant for the infant’s own welfare and well-being.  She’s driven by an enormous genetic drive to protect, nurture and defend the infant at all costs.  The welfare of the infant becomes paramount in her life by activating this particular part of her brain system. As a result of that she’s tuned into her infant on many different levels than just the ordinary way we think of relating.

And the other interesting thing is that this gives her the capacity to awaken in the infant the infant’s own genetically encoded package of intelligences so they’re each awakening in the other fundamental biological intelligences and there’s a reciprocation established, a reciprocal action, each is taking their cues from the other.  The mother is so observant, so acutely aware of the infant, she sees the infant through totally different eyes.  She senses the infant on different levels.  No one else in the world will ever sense that infant on all the levels she is going to be sensing from that infant.  They will be in communication on many different levels than just ordinary sight and sound.

Now with this is the foundation of their relationship from that point on throughout the entire development of this infant, it is the infants welfare and well-being that will be the prime stimulus in the mother’s response to him. And she’ll be taking her cues for how to respond to that infant from the infant itself.  

Not having this connection, if it’s broken by something and the bonding is incomplete, she won’t be bringing in those cues.  She won’t know what to do.  She’ll be confused by the infant and the fallback and all sorts of intellectual schemes are trying to respond.  She will be looking at the infant not from the welfare of the infant but from what she’s been taught or read in books or what she believes might be the best for her own image of herself as a mother.  

We find that the unbonded mother is far more concerned over the behaviors of the infant or a child as they reflect on the mother’s own social position.  That is the mother’s prime motive.  The prime impetus in her response to her infant is not the welfare of the infant but the welfare of her own social image in the eyes of other people.  So she’ll be responding to the infant or reacting to him in ways to try to change the infant or child’s behavior in ways she thinks will enhance her own social image and she won’t even be aware of this.

Then the child is taking their cues from the mother and they’re picking up from the mother not the cues of nurturing, well-being and their own welfare, it’s simply a demand from behaviors that are going to protect the mother herself.  So you get a complete reversal, an inversion of the natural process from the failure to establish that bond in the beginning.

You not only have the fundamental or different concept within the woman’s own mind of what being a mother is, if these nurturing intelligences are not awakened, but you have a different concept of what a child is.  A child becomes simply a malleable piece of clay that we must mold into our image of what we think the child should be or what we’re told what the child should be by experts.  You find a peculiar situation in our society or our culture of women taking their cues for how to bring up a child from male experts, even doctors, rather than from their own innate inherent instinct, their genetically encoded wisdom for how to mother and how to take care of a child. They are looking to male physicians or experts or developmentalists or people that write books about it simply because they had no knowledge of that coming from within themselves.  Why, because it was never awakened within them. And, as a result, the child doesn’t have it awakened in them all of these counter-nurturing and responsive kind of things, and you have a lot of problems in relationship in the family from the terrible two’s on through the terrible teens.  You have warfare in effect between the parent and the child which is exactly the opposite of what nature intended.
 

Violence In The Name Of God

GENDER EQUALITY OF HUMAN RIGHTS and REPRESENTATION 
AMENDMENT TO THE U.S. CONSTITUTION

E-Mail correspondence below calls for a different priority.

Rabbi Lerner—It is time to launch an “agonizing reappraisal” of the destructive role that religious institutions have had upon Humanity.

The continuing violence against women and her children throughout human history must be understood within a religious framework. Transforming Cultures of Violence into Cultures of Peace is not possible without a transformation of values and assumptions of gender inequality inherent in religious theology.

So God created man in his own image; in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. (Genesis 1:27-29).

Themes: 
culture
pleasure
shame
violence

Almost a Woman

Not having health insurance I sat in the waiting room of the local ‘tribal’ clinic waiting for my annual routine blood work to be drawn. Sitting across the room was a Native or Hispanic mother with her daughter, who is just becoming a woman. She watched the television and got up a few times to answer a question or help her mother with a form. I was struck by her natural beauty, her chiseled face, large doe-like brown eyes, her body mid-way transforming from a child to a woman.

Themes: 
adolescence
culture
parenting
self image

Violence: The Most Significant Mental and Behavioral Health Disorder in America and the World


The Role of the Paleocerebellum in Eliminating Violence in Mother-deprived Primates and Permitting Expression of Affectional Behaviors Not Possible Before Paleocerebellar Surgery.

James W. Prescott, Ph.D.

It is well recognized that Violence by Homo Sapiens throughout the World threatens species and planetary survival. Violence begins with the individual and must be understood before Cultures of Violence appear. The brain is the organ of behavior and how the brain is encoded for Peaceful or Violent Behaviors is the great challenge to Humanity.

Themes: 
abuse-neglect
bonding
brain
culture
pleasure
prenatal learning
sensory deprivation
violence

Making a Difference


A philanthropist asked: "With so many worthy nonprofit organizations and such need, what would you do? Where would you invest ten thousand or ten million dollars, and why?"

The answer, I maintain, depends on depth; treating symptoms or root causes. A person bleeding after an accident needs immediate attention. Stop the bleeding. Preventing the injury is more complex, more challenging. We need to do both.

Culture is the cause. Self-inflicted suffering and violence is the bleeding. Yes, self-inflected. In a recent interview the Dali Lama observed that we create most of our problems. Physicist David Bohm, protégé of Einstein, put it this way:

We are faced with a breakdown of general social order and human values that threatens stability throughout the world. Existing knowledge cannot meet this challenge. Something much deeper is needed, a completely new approach. I am suggesting that the very means by which we try to solve our problems is the problem. The source of our problems is within the structure of thought itself.

Collectively what Bohm calls thought expresses as Culture. Culture is our semantic-reality, the conditioned memories triggered by words, mental, emotional and physical images and our identification with these images. The culturally induced inner image we believe we are and the outer image we call culture emanate from the same root. Both are images. Both are, at close examination, the same. This insight is both obvious and profound. The difference between our personal image of self and the outer image we call culture is defined only by which end of the telescope we are viewing, near or far, inner or outer. The root of our personal and global conflict emanates from this image.

Themes: 
bonding
childhood
culture
parenting

We Are The Sorcerer’s Apprentice 2

My intent (whim) has been to awaken parents from the spell and implicit trap created by our cultural identity. I would not have described it as such twenty years ago, but that is an up-to-date and accurate description.

By encouraging adults to become more aware of our self-generated trap we might free the children who come under our spell and with that, culture, or at least lessen the entrapment produced by the enchantment. After all; kids are not the problem. Child development is dependent on adult development.

This spell or enchantment is the normal and natural function of the relatively new neocortex, the 3rd brain using Paul D. MacLean’s triune brain model.

The Sorcerer’s Apprentice symbolizes our immature mastery of the image making power generated by this 3rd brain complex. The imagery produced by this center is so vast and so new biologically that we simply get caught, again and again, in the images we create, forgetting that we have created them. Not a good thing given the creative power these images represent, which is what the Sorcerer symbolizes.

Themes: 
brain
culture
imagination
self image

We are the Sorcerer’s Apprentice

Human development is ‘model dependent.’ Every generation stands upon the shoulders of the previous. Nature assumes that the adult model, each individual and the collective culture, is sane, intelligent and wise. She could not do otherwise.

Unquestioned acceptance of the given was Piaget’s observation. That is nature’s agenda.  And it worked perfectly for billions of years until the neocortex evolved and with it the capacity to imagine. Imagination is the most powerful tool in the known universe.  Ah, but what if the user hasn’t a clue what it is or how to use it – sanely, consciously? We all then become the Sorcerer’s Apprentice.

Themes: 
brain
culture
imagination
parenting
violence

To Me or Not to Me?

If there is a single force that generates inequality, violence and war throughout the world, other than the Central Bank, I vote for the self-image we create gazing up for assurance and approval as infants. At this early stage of development what emerges from that glance is not a fixed image, rather feelings: of acceptance, of care, welcoming, understanding, empathy, encouragement or their opposites; rejection, anger, frustration, neglect and the various forms of abuse.

Over time the repetition of these feelings coalesce, merge and form predictable patterns and these in turn create the scaffolding upon which our social identity is formed. Belonging means survival. Rejection could mean death. So we began to judge our worth and value based on the emotional reactions we experience in the mirror of our primary relationship.

Being accepted and maintaining the bond or attachment with mother extends to father, siblings, extended family, tribe and village. Instead of glances our value is based on comparison; our score, grade point average, nationality, race, profession, political party, social status, cast, club, gang, and religion. Our identity and self-worth are sculpted by the selfish needs of these social groups and within each sub-group is a pecking order forged by comparison, allegiance, obedience and conformity. Conflict, greed and war are implicit in this structure and this structure is based on mental-emotional images that forge our identity.

Themes: 
bonding
culture
parenting
praise/rewards
self image
violence

King On The Evil We Fact Today

Martin Luther King and his Viet Nam War.

I was pretty young in the early 60s’ when JFK was politically neutralized. The civil rights movement was no less dramatic. I saw one or two sound bites about something happening in the South. My older sister and brother’s friends were being drafted; protests at Kent State; Viet Nam. I was clueless.

I was also clueless about this guy named Martin Luther King, marching in Birmingham for civil rights. Why, did you know that just a few years ago people of color could not sit next to white folk at the neighbor diner? Children of color had to sit at the back of the bus, could not attend white schools. Imagine that? He had a dream and so must we.

Themes: 
culture
freedom

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