Normal is how we think children are, or should be. This includes things like three month colic, where babies are constantly throwing up, vomiting. They call it spitting up so it doesn’t sound like a desperate illness, but it is an illness. It’s painful. It’s not okay. This happens even when babies are drinking mother’s milk. They’re still throwing up, they’re still violently ill. There are contractions and a lot of pain.
How could we conceivably believe that we have evolved over millions of years without somehow solving the problem of digesting our own mother’s milk? No other animal has this problem and it stands to reason that our mother’s milk is digestible to us just as it is to every other animal.
Why do we have indigestion? Why are babies are so stressed that they can’t keep their food down. Mind you, the people that I saw in the jungle never had indigestion unless they were violently ill with fever. Babies never threw up. They were not wriggling and struggling and arching and flexing and squeaking like ours do normally.
The tragedy is that we call this normal because we’ve never seen a comfortable baby. It also helps to have the babies nursing vertically rather than horizontally as we do, for some reason. Some male pediatrician probably told us to do it that way. It’s not logical to have a baby nurse lying down. It’s just as illogical as having a mother lying flat on her back with her feet in the air when she’s trying to give birth to something downwards. It doesn’t make any sense at all. But of course, this was something imposed on us by obstetricians who like to take over completely and present us with a bouncing baby, while getting rid of our husbands as much as possible. I hope that there is greater understanding today that this is not the most sensitive of appropriate way for most births to take place.
Are there other examples of the difference between natural and normal.
We oppose the baby from the start, coached by experts and the society around us, not by our own feelings. We wage a war of wills.
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