Mentoring A Real Man In Today's World

Hi Lisa…
Interesting and common challenge.
Mentoring a real man in today's world.
 
Every young man is unique. One shoe definitely does not fit all.

I do not know of a rite of passage group that might fit the need.

What does it mean to be a man in today’s world?

I think we need to know where we are pointing before drawing a map.

What are the skills, wisdom and capacities needed to be such a thing?

The Way of the Superior Man : A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire by David Didea
And
Fire in the Belly by Sam Keen
Would be good reading for you and your partner to help you formulate your own views.

How can you draw a map if you don’t know where you are going?

Themes: 
adolescence
culture
freedom
homeschooling
parenting

Sarah Palin Stokes The Fire Of The U.S. Culture Of Violence

America is a Culture of Violence. Assassination of our political leaders has a long
history in this nation. Abraham Lincoln, John F. Kennedy, Robert F. Kennedy, Martin
Luther King, Jr. are in recent memory of this history and now we must add liberal
Democratic Representative Gabrielle Gifford, 8th District, Arizona, as a potential victim.
It is of more than passing interest that the victims of these assassinations represent the
liberal wing of America political thought and action. Questions must be raised as to the
origins of political/social conservatism in the genesis of these assassinations.

Themes: 
culture
democracy
freedom
pleasure
television-computers
violence

There Is No Business Like Show Business

It is amazing that it takes an assassination and senseless mass murder to rile tolerant people. What follows are excerpts from today’s Climate of Hate by New York Times op-ed columnist Paul Krugman.

As David Frum, the former Bush speechwriter, has put it, “Republicans originally thought that Fox worked for us and now we’re discovering we work for Fox.”

Please understand – if there wasn’t an egger market for violence it would not appear in the script. While in India I discovered that at least one rape in most films was mandatory. Joseph Chilton Pearce was to be a consultant on children’s TV programming until the sponsor insisted on a steady stream of violence or there would be no show! That’s show business.

Themes: 
culture
democracy
freedom
media
television-computers
violence

Sexual Monogamy & Violence Against Woman - Part 1 A Betrayal of Human Sexual Evolution

SEXUAL MONOGAMY AND VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMAN.
Part 1 A Betrayal of Human Sexual Evolution

James W. Prescott, Ph.D.
Institute of Humanistic Science

The Washington Post listed 3 new books about sex that illuminates rather than titillates at http://www.washingtonpost.com/wpdyn/content/article/2010/07/09/AR2010070902849_pf.html

The Washington Post July 11, 2010

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/sex-dawn/201006/time-sex-dawn

This refers the reader to the Psychology Today Interview on the book which provides a source for the book reviewed.

Themes: 
abuse-neglect
bonding
brain
culture
pleasure
sensory deprivation
violence

Why Bonobos Don’t Kill Each Other

10 JULY 2010

A NYT ARTICLE OF INTEREST:
Why Bonobos Don’t Kill Each Other
http://www.nytimes.com/2010/07/06/science/06conv.html

James W. Prescott, Ph.D.
Institute of Humanistic Science

In an Interview with Brian Hare, an assistant professor at the Duke Institute for Brain Sciences at Duke University, and Vanessa Woods, a research scientist in the Department of Evolutionary Anthropology at Duke by Claudia Dreifus, New York Times. July 2, 2010, the following exchange illustrates the disconnect between violence and killing with sexuality and their roots in the maternal-infant/child relationship. Brian Hare missed the central lesson of the Bonobo when he responded to Vanessa Woods’s commentary on Bonobo sexuality:

Themes: 
abuse-neglect
bonding
culture
pleasure
violence

It is done onto us as we perceive, believe, and do onto others.

Suzann Arms of Birthing the Future is planning an international symposium on birth and how it affects the way the brain and therefore how culture develops. She asked for feedback – Though you might be interested…

Suzann 
It is done onto us as we perceive – as we believe – as we do onto others.

The emphasis you placed on birth – being the foundation of human development – is of course critical. I suggest that there is another focus, one that is deeper and more nurturing. The core insight driving all of our activities at Touch the Future is summarized in the preface for a new book in development Kids are NOT the Problem.

There is a pervasive, near universal perception – parenting is about kids. Just about everything a parent does and often thinks about is about ‘the kid.’ An alternative point of view, a completely different paradigm, is that kids provide the necessary catalyst for evolutionary development in adults. The first, parenting is about kids, places children, their care, education and development in the spotlight. They are the goal and focus of attention and resources. The second, becoming a parent is about adult development with kids providing the stimulus for this continuing growth, places the adult center stage. Adult growth and development then becomes the goal, focus of attention and target for resource investments. It sounds selfish but it’s NOT.

Themes: 
birth
bonding
brain
culture

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