Mon, 12/18/2017 - 10:46
Imagine growing from conception and throughout childhood without being blamed or shamed, punished or rewarded. No corporal punishments, i.e., spanking. No bribes, do this and you will get that. No time outs. No condemning words or threatening looks. Not even comparison. That means winning or losing, grades and hierarchy are off limits too. Oh, you can see which stack of blocks reach taller before falling down, but it is the blocks that have all the attention, not the one stacking. In place of these you experienced open and honest empathy and respect for feelings and needs, your feelings and needs and equally respect and appreciation for the feelings and needs of others, including plants, animals, water and the earth, along with, of course, natural consequences. Fire is, indeed, hot. The way the early brain, body and developing psyche experiences this trust, empathy and respect is through touch, affection and pleasurable sensations, mother nature, not symbols and not with concepts, God in the sky. What would you be like if that was the environment you were planted in? How would the society and our world be different?
Mon, 10/24/2016 - 22:19
TWO CULTURAL BRAINS is a synthesis of SSAD Theory that describes the dominant role that PAIN and PLEASURE have in shaping the developing brain. THE FIRST BRAIN in evolution: The sub-cortical emotional-social sexual brain that is shaped primarily by the Matrilineal Cultures (Pleasure); and the SECOND BRAIN in evolution: the neocortical rational symbolic brain that is shaped primarily by the Patrilineal Cultures (Pain) which forms the Gender Equality Equation that exist throughout the World Cultures.
Wed, 10/19/2016 - 18:09
“We are faced with a breakdown of general social order and human values that threatens stability throughout the world. Existing knowledge cannot meet this challenge. Something much deeper is needed, a completely new approach. I am suggesting that the very means by which we try to solve our problems is the problem. The source of our problems is within the structure of thought itself.”
David Bohm, Theoretical Physicist,
the individual Einstein believed was his intellectual successor.
Tue, 10/18/2016 - 12:20
Touch the Future began over twenty years ago. The vision was to help parents and those who care about children respond in the best possible way to the dramatic changes in the environment we call childhood, changes that exploded after World War II. We did not have the internet then. Social media and mobile phone-computers did not exist. The dangers that television represented are now compounded many times with ‘screen time’ replacing living, breathing relationships. Technology in the early classroom was just creeping in. Levels of autism, emotionally challenged youth and other pathologies were significantly lower but on the rise. Play deprivation was high with adult organized activities replacing free-range spontaneous play. The impact of hospital-technological birth on mother-infant-father attachment continues. Global warming with the threat of mass global extinction, including homo sapiens was a distant dream.
Sun, 06/19/2016 - 13:25
What if the way we treat our child is the way our child will treat the world? And what if you and I are not all that different from other parents so our child is like theirs and that is the way the world will be?
Around the 12th to 14th c. B.C. Hermes Trismegistus proclaimed, as above so below. That which is above is the same as that which is below. “Macrocosmos is the same as microcosmos. The universe is the same as God, God is the same as man, man is the same as the cell, the cell is the same as the atom, the atom is the same as... and so on, ad infinitum." Human behavior is fractal by nature. A fractal is a pattern that repeats at every scale. We create the future by the way we behave now. Wow! Each of us is responsible for the way humanity is and will be. Everything we do matters and Carly Elizabeth doesn’t miss a stich.
Wed, 03/23/2016 - 09:35
The greatest terror a child can have is that he is not loved, and rejection is the hell he fears. I think everyone in the world, to a large or small extent, has felt rejection. And with rejection comes anger, and with anger some kind of crime in revenge for the rejection, and with the crime, guilt ~ and there is the story of mankind. John Steinbeck, East of Eden, 1952
Breastfeeding bonding and baby-carrying bonding are the first events of life, which the newborn/infant/child learns about love and non-violence. Love is first learned at the breast of mother and by being carried on her body ~ like in utero, where the first lessons of being connected with mother are learned.
Sat, 01/23/2016 - 21:51
As we continue Joe develops a number of themes all centering on the long term consequences of not being nurtured. ‘The child who is nurtured and bonded and given that safe space from the earliest developmental period can move away from the safe space carrying that same state of mind with him and is ready to move on into the higher realms of human possibility. Whereas the majority of us lacking that safe space never move on. We try to repair or build for ourselves the safe space to be. It’s a safe space that we either carry with us and are - or not at all, yet we are trained to believe we can create the safe space by following all the appropriate cultural directives and every cultural directive drives us into an ever increasing unsafe positions and we feel more and more threatened by the world.’ Here again, Joe turns our cultural assumptions upside down. Rather than culture being the sanctuary it pretends to be, culture is the source of our greatest trauma and pain.
Wed, 01/20/2016 - 13:40
Continuing to focus on the way culture shapes our reality Joe notes: ‘One of the things that culture brings about is the idea that without its guiding filters we would be like beasts in the forest, savage, uncivilized, murderous, etc. The truth of the matter is, culture is what makes us savage, vicious, murderous, war after war after war because of the restrictions and restraints imposed by culture. Both neural scientist James Neal and Alan Shore question: “Will we survive the current situation?” And both Neal and Shore, said “Only if we can produce males capable of nurturing their offspring.” And this sets the stage for a radically different view of the nurturing role of males.
Tue, 01/19/2016 - 10:38
One of the most deeply penetrating insights that emerge from Joe’s vision of imagination is how it manifests as both our individual self-image or ego and the culture we live in. One is a personalized micro view and the other a collective macro view of essentially the same field, each giving rise to the other. The Greek word persona comes to mind, persona being the cultural mask our authentic nature wears. We must conform to culture to belong and therefore survive and by doing so we limit and constrain our true nature and potential. Here rests another pillar in Joe’s overarching framework.