Violence is Failed Bonding/Attachment - Continued


 

Violence is Failed Bonding/Attachment - Continued
Two key points: violence, along with a long list of other maladies; depression, ADHD, addiction, chronic stress related diseases, child abuse, domestic violence and rape are expressions of failed or impaired attachment AND the biological fact that males are more vulnerable than females focus our attention sharply. At least it should, but often doesn’t, which is indeed curious. For some strange reason the closer we tread to the heart of violence the more our attention is distracted, rendering us less capable of embracing and embodying the truth.

Themes: 
abuse-neglect
bonding
brain
pleasure
violence

Violence is a Failure of Bonding/Attachment

bonding and violence


We, or at least I, often rationalize violence. After all, it is normal to pound a fist or scream when frustrated and angry. Anger is normal. Einstein’s protégée, David Bohm, defined violence as any excessive use of force. Slamming a car door when one could gently close it. Violence is natural. Or is it?

Applying Gabor Mate’s insight into addictions: The question isn’t why the addiction. The real question is; why the pain?

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Themes: 
abuse-neglect
bonding
brain
violence

Another Failed Mother-Infant Bond

PHS Surgeon GENERAL KOOP:
“…violence, which is one of the most extensive and chronic epidemics in the Public Health of this country."

James W.Prescott, Ph.D.

C. Everett Koop, M.D., PHS Surgeon General and Deputy Assistant Secretary For Health. addressed the American Academy of Pediatrics, New York October 26, 1982 On Violence and Public Health, stated some 30 years ago:

Themes: 
abuse-neglect
bonding
violence

Violence: The Most Significant Mental and Behavioral Health Disorder in America and the World


The Role of the Paleocerebellum in Eliminating Violence in Mother-deprived Primates and Permitting Expression of Affectional Behaviors Not Possible Before Paleocerebellar Surgery.

James W. Prescott, Ph.D.

It is well recognized that Violence by Homo Sapiens throughout the World threatens species and planetary survival. Violence begins with the individual and must be understood before Cultures of Violence appear. The brain is the organ of behavior and how the brain is encoded for Peaceful or Violent Behaviors is the great challenge to Humanity.

Themes: 
abuse-neglect
bonding
brain
culture
pleasure
prenatal learning
sensory deprivation
violence

Story Plus Play

Life is relationship. There is me, my authentic nature with its needs and curiosities and the cosmos expanding infinitely beyond me. What happens in the gap defines my life.

Children are sponges. Their rapidly changing brains and bodies compulsively seek new and different relationships that match the nova of neural connections exploding inside. We adulterated adults are in the Stone Age compared to the exponential brain growth found from the moment of conception to age eleven. Indeed the brain continues its expansive reach beyond eleven, but not as radically. The earlier in life the more profound and pronounced the changes, which means the greater the need for ever-changing appropriate things and relationships to engage.

Themes: 
bonding
learning
parenting
play
storytelling

Bonding Is Resonance - Resonance is Life

The weaver becomes the web. The more we relate to dead things the less alive we become. Emerson made this simple observation as the industrial revolution was pouring across the globe. The environment shapes development. Development shapes perception. Perception shapes reality. Reality projected outwardly shapes the environment and round and round we go.  Resonance….

Joseph Chilton Pearce made a profound and critical observation about virtual reality and the devices that produce them; they are dead, meaning they have no intrinsic resonate meaning, something all life forms share. They represent counterfeits of the mental imagery the most highly evolved regions of the brain evolved to generate. Exposure to counterfeits as the brain is developing (most importantly during the early stages and decreasing in importance through age eleven), retard the development of the capacities the counterfeit mimics.

One is bathed in living resonance sitting in the lap of a storyteller, hearts beating, nonverbal emotions, body contact, movement, temperature, order, touch and many other subtle fields of meaning. Holding a tablet or phone with a screen in your lap one is bathed in toxic microwave radiation. Yes, the senses are stimulated by lifeless counterfeits of living experience, startling bursts of sounds, moving colors, often frightening by design. Nature’s agenda is clear. We become the models we are given. At the turn of the century Emerson said: The weaver becomes the web. Joe’s insight is brilliant. Life and its meaning are defined by ‘resonance.’ Resonance is life itself. But we forget.

Prenatally the developing human is bathed in resonance. The first two years after birth are extremely sensitive. Attunement is the norm even if the adult is not tuning in. The developing brain is exploding with new and boundless possibilities all defined by resonance, that is, the nonverbal meaning of the model’s state. Nature assumes this model is a sensitive, available, attentive and attuned mother supported and nurtured by a father and extended family.

With the unfoldment of spoken language the child’s attention shifts to new internal imagery now generated by symbols and metaphors. As this new field of internal imagery expands attention shifts from the nonverbal meaning found in resonance to the play of words and relationships defined by words. The meaning of resonance slips in the background and is often forgotten, a tragic and unnecessary loss. What happens if the child’s models  are lost and absorbed in virtual reality and its counterfeits. If they, the models, are not sensitive, available, and attuned to resonance - what value will the child find in maintaining and developing this subtle capacity?

Imagine a developing human being interacting with a stimulating but dead technological environment. The model imperative and Epigenetics are lawful. They don’t care. Give a child dead counterfeits of living resonance and that is what you will develop in that child.

And down the slippery slope we go, bonded to dead virtual reality, increasingly unaware of what we have lost.

Themes: 
bonding
brain
environment

Making a Difference


A philanthropist asked: "With so many worthy nonprofit organizations and such need, what would you do? Where would you invest ten thousand or ten million dollars, and why?"

The answer, I maintain, depends on depth; treating symptoms or root causes. A person bleeding after an accident needs immediate attention. Stop the bleeding. Preventing the injury is more complex, more challenging. We need to do both.

Culture is the cause. Self-inflicted suffering and violence is the bleeding. Yes, self-inflected. In a recent interview the Dali Lama observed that we create most of our problems. Physicist David Bohm, protégé of Einstein, put it this way:

We are faced with a breakdown of general social order and human values that threatens stability throughout the world. Existing knowledge cannot meet this challenge. Something much deeper is needed, a completely new approach. I am suggesting that the very means by which we try to solve our problems is the problem. The source of our problems is within the structure of thought itself.

Collectively what Bohm calls thought expresses as Culture. Culture is our semantic-reality, the conditioned memories triggered by words, mental, emotional and physical images and our identification with these images. The culturally induced inner image we believe we are and the outer image we call culture emanate from the same root. Both are images. Both are, at close examination, the same. This insight is both obvious and profound. The difference between our personal image of self and the outer image we call culture is defined only by which end of the telescope we are viewing, near or far, inner or outer. The root of our personal and global conflict emanates from this image.

Themes: 
bonding
childhood
culture
parenting

The Importance of Breastfeeding/Bonding to Prevent Infant Mortality And Suicide

This essay, Breastfeeding Bonding Prevents Infant Mortality and Suicide,
along with two accompanying videos provide dramatic information on the complex origins of violence in human cultures throughout the world.

love and violence
The Origins of Love and Violence, 24 minutes

War On  Women and Children,
11 minute film documentary produced by W-5, CTV Toronto and broadcast on their National Network in November 1976

This summary of a wide body of research spanning over 50 years, challenges thousands of years of child rearing practices of the dominant patristic/theistic cultures of the world and explains why those cultures appear unwilling to change, thus perpetuating the violence inherent in those cultures, which now represent the dominate cultures through the wor

The contemporary sexual violence in the U.S, military mirrors the culture from which it is drawn and changes in the military without changes in the culture are doomed to failure.

Changing culture means changing the brain that supports violent behavior in contrast to a brain that supports, peaceful, harmonious, egalitarian behaviors. The brain is the organ of behavior, as the film documentary supports. Pain inhibits Neurointegrative Pleasure and Peaceful, Harmonious and Egalitarian relationships; Neurointegrative Pleasure inhibits Pain and Violence
BASIC NEURAL NETWORKS OF THE BRAIN ARE FORMED DURING THE FIRST 3 YEARS OF LIFE.

The data presented herein demands the role of embodied Pleasure in human relationships, which is first learned at the breast of Mother—the primary agent of Nurturance, which prevents depression and violence. Disembodied (Divine) Love betrays Humanity and the future of Human Civilization.

Cultural investment in Mothers as Nurturing Mothers is indispensable in changing the newborn, infant, child and teen brain that is the future of Humanity that will make possible Gender Equality.
Ashley Montagu stated in The Natural Superiority of Women ((1952)

Women are the bearers, the nurtures of life; men have more often tended to be the curtailers, the destroyers of life." (p. 241).

"Women must be granted complete equality with men, for only when this has been done will they fully be able to realize themselves" (p. 242). http://www.violence.de/prescott/dvd/Natsup.pdf

Themes: 
bonding
brain
breastfeeding

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