Breastfeeding Bonding Prevents Infant Mortality And Suicide

The greatest terror a child can have is that he is not loved, and rejection is the hell he fears. I think everyone in the world, to a large or small extent, has felt rejection. And with rejection comes anger, and with anger some kind of crime in revenge for the rejection, and with the crime, guilt ~ and there is the story of mankind. John Steinbeck, East of Eden, 1952

Breastfeeding bonding and baby-carrying bonding are the first events of life, which the newborn/infant/child learns about love and non-violence. Love is first learned at the breast of mother and by being carried on her body ~ like in utero, where the first lessons of being connected with mother are learned.

Themes: 
abuse-neglect
bonding
brain
breastfeeding
culture
pleasure
pregnancy

Melting Hugs

Today Carly Elizabeth it officially eighteen months young. Yes, the brain grows more the first year than any other time. The density of possible connections are two to three times that of an adult. What does that mean? Muffins on the floor, toy train wrecks, hidden objects to trip over in the dark, toilet paper strolling down the hall, my wallet in the trash, car keys in the vacuum and a million other surprises.

Themes: 
bonding
brain development
unconditional love

Bonding and the Intelligence of the Heart

Insight Title: 
Bonding and the Intelligence of the Heart
Author: 
Joseph Chilton Pearce
Abstract: 
Up to 65 percent of the cells of the heart are neurons just like those found in the brain. There is a direct unmediated neuro-connection, a direct pipeline, between the heart and the brain. The brain informs the heart of its general emotional state and the heart encourages the brain to make an intelligent response. Poets and sages have been saying this about the heart down through the ages. The emerging field of Neurocardiology and research at the Institute of HeartMath place the intelligence of the heart in the field of biology, where it belongs. This brief program redefines bonding in light of this new research.

The Only Power Strong Enough

 

Carly Elizabeth is seven months young today, just this week beginning to pre-crawl. I wish I could be so attentive, persistent, focused, so sensitive and aware of everything instead of being preoccupied with all my stuff. Carly craves engagement and it is truly one of the most challenging tasks as a parent to keep up, to stay in the present moment, to share this experience together right now. Oh, how easy it is to give that demand for complete engagement over to some mechanical or technological thing, but at what price?

Themes: 
attachment
bonding
culture

Attachment and Authenticity 08

Insight Title: 
The stress dis-ease connection
Author: 
Gabor Maté
Abstract: 
The relationship between childhood experience, hormones, stress, and adult illness is very straightforward.

Attachment and Authenticity 07

Insight Title: 
The unscientific invalidity of blaming parents
Author: 
Gabor Maté
Abstract: 
When there’s something wrong we’re always looking for somebody to blame, rather than looking at causes.

Attachment and Authenticity 06

Insight Title: 
ADD is another coping mechanism
Author: 
Gabor Maté
Abstract: 
Children’s response to their stress, adaptive responses that help them survive the stress, later become sources of pathology.

Attachment and Authenticity 05

Insight Title: 
We don’t have a medical system
Author: 
Gabor Maté
Abstract: 
We don’t have a medical system. We have a non-system, a patchwork of competing interests

Attachment and Authenticity 04

Insight Title: 
Two devastating separations
Author: 
Gabor Maté
Abstract: 
The Western medical model makes two devastating separations. We separate the mind from the body, that is, we separate the emotions from the physiology and we separate the individual from the environment.

Attachment and Authenticity 03

Insight Title: 
Survival requires attachment and authenticity
Author: 
Gabor Maté
Abstract: 
The child basically has two needs; we have the need for attachment which is the seeking of closeness and proximity with another human being and authenticity, to be ourselves.

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