• Essential Joseph Chilton Pearce 37
    Seeing the Real Child
    conformity, parenting, comparison
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    We rarely see our child for who they are. We see mostly what we expect the child should be, the cultural image. Nature’s thrust is that each child is a unique experience. Under the force of survival, which is a cultural set of ideas, we find a conforming individual rather than a unique individual. And that conformity means limitation and constraints on every level. This will always leave the child in intense frustration because who they really are cannot be expressed. They must become what the cultural expectation demands and they have to do that to relieve the parent’s anxiety which is their need to conform.