Ouch, too hot, said Goldilocks, pain. Ouch, too cold. Ahhhh, just right, she said, pleasure. As I have come to understand, mostly due to my twenty-year friendship with James W. Prescott, PhD, pleasure and pain rest at the foundation of our development as human beings. We are drawn to and seek experiences that are comforting, pleasurable and we avoid, withdraw from sensations that are painful. Not very complicated, obvious, but we forget.

In the quiet moments when Carly melts into my arms there is attunement, resonance, shared meaning, trust, respect, appreciation, curiosity, wonder, all moving, changing and so much more, embodied, nonverbal, silent. This silent, reciprocal attunement is the essence of bonded-attachment and that creates a safe-place for play.

Attachment Parenting International and Touch the Future both began 20 years ago. Both were inspired by the same vision; kids are not the problem, the self-world view each child develops and therefore society is model and experience dependent and parents are the primary model and the experience.

Post World War Two changes pulled the extended family rug out from under parents. Grandma was absent, boomer moms were chasing Valium with gin and tonic, babies were separated by technological births and never quite got the connection right, TV was the sitter and compulsory schooling began earlier and earlier to name just a few.

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19 September, 2014

Michael

Congratulations on an extraordinary post, one tht brings academia (abstractions) into the real (sensory) world.

This rude awakening came as quite a surprise, shocking really. The sun, moon, planets and every living thing does not revolve around me. Life is reciprocal. The more we naturally give to life, the more life nurtures and empowers us.

Dear friend and inspired mentor, Joseph Chilton Pearce speaks of parenting demanding this realization; giving over our self-as-center-ness to the joyous, though not always easy, service of others. We can look at the entire developmental process as a slow transition from me to we, from mine to ours or us.

This rude awakening came as quite a surprise, shocking really. The sun, moon, planets and every living thing does not revolve around me. Life is reciprocal. The more we naturally give to life, the more life nurtures and empowers us.

Dear friend and inspired mentor, Joseph Chilton Pearce speaks of parenting demanding this realization; giving over our self-as-center-ness to the joyous, though not always easy, service of others. We can look at the entire developmental process as a slow transition from me to we, from mine to ours or us.

Two for one this time.

School is in. Mandatory vaccinations are up. A whistleblower comes clean regarding the Center for Disease Control cover up and fraud regarding documented statistical correlations linking vaccines to autism. Please see the two important videos.

And

My adventures with Carly Elizabeth, now six weeks old.

The Buddha spoke of emptiness. Krishnamurti called it silence. Both are referring to a heart and mind unfettered by the noise generated by words, symbols and social conditioning. Such is the body, heart and mind of Carly Elizabeth, now six weeks old.

Two for one this time.

School is in. Mandatory vaccinations are up. A whistleblower comes clean regarding the Center for Disease Control cover up and fraud regarding documented statistical correlations linking vaccines to autism. Please see the two important videos.

And

My adventures with Carly Elizabeth, now six weeks old.

The Buddha spoke of emptiness. Krishnamurti called it silence. Both are referring to a heart and mind unfettered by the noise generated by words, symbols and social conditioning. Such is the body, heart and mind of Carly Elizabeth, now six weeks old.

School in in.

MANDATORY Vaccinations of YOUR children are up.

Senior Government Scientist breaks thirteen years of silence on CDC’s Vaccine-Autism Fraud. View the video.

How do you protect yourself and your children?

Be informed. Say no! Say it loudly. View the video.

Michael Mendizza