Something we can all do…

I wish it were not so but we often don’t say what we mean and mean what we say. I remember with fond admiration and scoops of respect sharing time with Marshal Rosenberg, founder of Nonviolent Communication. ‘Look beyond the words and respond with empathy to the feelings and needs that are the true meaning of what is being said,’ he said. Oh, but we get triggered. Then we are pushed and pulled around by our frazzled emotions, and for what; justifying, defending, proving ‘who’s right?’ I can’t remember one time when playing ‘who’s right’ actually resolved a conflict. Marshal pointed to a better way.

Themes: 
nonviolent communication

Marley Is Dead.

This must be distinctly understood, or nothing wonderful can come of the story I am going to relate.

Themes: 
hope
imagination

Carly’s Second Christmas

Carly is changing, and fast. She is beginning to talk to herself, not with words but with sounds and babble-phrases that will soon be sentences. Until very recently she needed play-learning experiences to be initiated. Now, at sixteen months and counting, she is beginning to initiate her own play-learning experiences. The early formation of imagination, past and future, is unfolding. There is teething, relatively short attention to some things and quick frustrations if life fails to respond immediately to her new intent. With unfolding intent comes unfolding challenges and that turns into unfolding frustrations. Welcome, Carly, to the world of creativity.

Themes: 
the child's reality

Trust and Happiness

Themes: 
basic trust
happiness

The Blind Leading the Blind

Normal isn’t necessarily healthy or natural,
or the road to hell is paved with good intentions.

It is so much more demanding for parents not to substitute virtual for real experiences; no wonder a recent essay applauded the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) for softening its position on screen time. This essay is the latest edition of the blind leading the blind, looking at water from inside the fish bowl and not at the true nature of the child, that is, after all, nature, not FaceBook, Sesame Street or the criminally misleading Baby Einstein. The arguments go like this:

Themes: 
screen time
technology

SEXUAL VIOLENCE: Early Life Experiences and Failed Affectional Bonding.

VIOLENCE AND WOMEN’S HEALTH Science 16 October 2015

http://www.sciencemag.org/content/350/6258/257.full?utm_campaign=email-sci-toc&et_rid=17133896&et_cid=5032

Distressingly, violence on campuses is part of a larger epidemic of sexual violence in the United States, making it a major women's issue.

Tragically, we are again reminded of the Violence against Women and her Children that goes well beyond the U.S. borders.  Sexual violence is a world-wide problem that calls for world-wide solutions.

Themes: 
violence

Every Moment Matters

Every moment matters, especially the early formative moments. There is no ‘down time,’ no ‘get out of jail free.’ This is the moment. Who and what we are is defined by how we live this split second. Don’t miss it. More to the point; don’t mess it up!

Themes: 
parenting
attention

Beans, Beans and More Beans

Happiness is the ultimate wisdom and my goal, whenever I’m with Carly Elizabeth, is to be as wise as possible. My care and affection for Carly is so innocent and reciprocal that I find it unimaginable how anyone could harm, neglect, punish, embarrass, judge, compare, spank, scold or shame a young child, but they do, every day in every neighborhood all over the globe. Innocence implies trust and that trust assumes complete nurturing. And by nurturing I don’t mean pandering or spoiling. Carly climbs the wooden stairs by herself. By nurturing I mean staying close so she feels safe and can give complete attention to the challenge of the moment.

Themes: 
play
parenting

The Inner State of the Union

Yuval Noah Harari describes in a recent book, Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind how ‘story,’ the capacity to imagine and share meaning through symbols and images, is the defining capacity that sets Sapiens apart from all other species. When focused inwardly ‘story’ sculpts the social-image we believe ourselves to be, what we call ‘me.’ When directed outwardly this same story creates culture. Culture and our social image are reciprocal mirrors of the other, each giving rise to the other, reincarnating the enchantment moment by moment. Both are stories, images, but we treat the image is if it were an independent, concrete reality. This is our basic flaw.

Themes: 
culture

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