Nothing Compares

They say, breast is best. Well, duhhh. But wait, I’m a guy. What do I know? The overarching question is why have a baby? Hormones, of course. No one can win an argument with hormones. There is only one correct answer, to nurture the healthiest, happiest, most awake, aware, sensitive and responsive human being possible. Having a baby is all about the baby. It is the ultimate ‘giving back.’

Themes: 
bonding
breastfeeding
culture

Reacing For A New World - Carly and Me - 3.5 Months New

Carly, born Tuesday, July 29, 2014. Today is Friday, November 14, 2014, 108 days, almost three and a half months new depending on how we calculate the equinox. There is a distilling of awareness and attention, a distinct and growing capacity to balance, to see, to be startled by a sharp sound or emotion and reaching to grasp. Carly’s attention, how stimulation moves from her eyes into her brain creating intention, extending down her arm, past the elbow and wrist to the outreached hand, tiny fingers grasping is today’s lesson.

Themes: 
brain
imagination
intelligence
pleasure
self image

Motherless Mothers, Violence & Brain disorders

After fifty years Attachment Theory is no longer a theory. Decades of research confirm; the nature and quality of a human being’s earliest relationships shape the body and the brain for a lifetime.

Themes: 
abuse-neglect
bonding
brain
violence

Reincarnate Happiness

Themes: 
parenting
play
pleasure

Pleasure: The Glue That Bonds

Ouch, too hot, said Goldilocks, pain. Ouch, too cold. Ahhhh, just right, she said, pleasure. As I have come to understand, mostly due to my twenty-year friendship with James W. Prescott, PhD, pleasure and pain rest at the foundation of our development as human beings. We are drawn to and seek experiences that are comforting, pleasurable and we avoid, withdraw from sensations that are painful. Not very complicated, obvious, but we forget.

Themes: 
bonding
parenting
pleasure

BETRAYAL OF ABUSED AND NEGLECTED CHILDREN & MOTHERS



By the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development, National Institutes of Health (NICHD / NIH):

Letter to Vice-President Biden; Senators Carper and Coon

We are a Violent Nation. Congress created the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development (NICHD) on October 17,1962 with enactment of PL 87-838 to conduct and support of research and training relating to maternal health, child health, and human development, including research and training in the special health problems and requirements of mothers and children..."(Sec 441).

Themes: 
abuse-neglect
brain
sensory deprivation

What I learned today with Carly Elizabeth - Nine weeks old

In the quiet moments when Carly melts into my arms there is attunement, resonance, shared meaning, trust, respect, appreciation, curiosity, wonder, all moving, changing and so much more, embodied, nonverbal, silent. This silent, reciprocal attunement is the essence of bonded-attachment and that creates a safe-place for play.

Themes: 
bonding
culture
parenting
play

Attachment Parenting International and Touch the Future

Attachment Parenting International and Touch the Future both began 20 years ago. Both were inspired by the same vision; kids are not the problem, the self-world view each child develops and therefore society is model and experience dependent and parents are the primary model and the experience.

Post World War Two changes pulled the extended family rug out from under parents. Grandma was absent, boomer moms were chasing Valium with gin and tonic, babies were separated by technological births and never quite got the connection right, TV was the sitter and compulsory schooling began earlier and earlier to name just a few.

Themes: 
bonding
childhood
parenting

Social is Sensory Continued

With Corrected Video Links
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19 September, 2014

Michael

Congratulations on an extraordinary post, one tht brings academia (abstractions) into the real (sensory) world.

Themes: 
abuse-neglect
brain
sensory deprivation

What I Learned From Carly Today

This rude awakening came as quite a surprise, shocking really. The sun, moon, planets and every living thing does not revolve around me. Life is reciprocal. The more we naturally give to life, the more life nurtures and empowers us.

Dear friend and inspired mentor, Joseph Chilton Pearce speaks of parenting demanding this realization; giving over our self-as-center-ness to the joyous, though not always easy, service of others. We can look at the entire developmental process as a slow transition from me to we, from mine to ours or us.

Themes: 
parenting
sensory deprivation

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