We can't solve a problem at the level of the problem

Forgive me for restating the obvious. It is really very simple. Rape, domestic violence, child abuse, depression, addictions, chronic anxiety, fear, rage, most chronic diseases; diabetes, obesity, Alzheimer’s, many hormonal cancers; breast, testicular, heart disease, ALS, attention disorders, bullying, gangs, male-female inequity, poverty, the failure of education, corporate exploitation of human beings and the environment, you get the point, are expressions of failed or impaired capacity to relate nonviolently with other human beings, society, culture and with nature. All are attachment disorders, attachment being attuned, empathic, respectful, caring relationships.

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culture
parenting
self image

What a wonderful morning to die

Walking to the studio at dawn on this the first day of my sixty-fifth spin, I mused; ‘what a wonderful morning to die.’ No, this is not some morbid depress-wish. It is complete amazement at the wonder, the beauty and constant newness each breath brings.

Themes: 
parenting
play
self image

The Number One On-Line Anything for Children Age Two... What?

It breaks my heart to see the propaganda. The Number One On-Line Anything for Children Age Two complete with college cap and diploma. This happy, smiling fake mouse magically appeared signing off from Facebook. How many hits; 892,469 likes and 50,017 talking about? How many young parents have been lured by the Hurried Child, Baby Einstein, early is better, screen time is educational, get junior off to a good, NO the best possible start, to keep up with the neighbors and the dumb-down standards, competing for that coveted position at the XYZ Preschool hoping she will make the cut.

Themes: 
brain
education
media

Nothing Compares

They say, breast is best. Well, duhhh. But wait, I’m a guy. What do I know? The overarching question is why have a baby? Hormones, of course. No one can win an argument with hormones. There is only one correct answer, to nurture the healthiest, happiest, most awake, aware, sensitive and responsive human being possible. Having a baby is all about the baby. It is the ultimate ‘giving back.’

Themes: 
bonding
breastfeeding
culture

Reacing For A New World - Carly and Me - 3.5 Months New

Carly, born Tuesday, July 29, 2014. Today is Friday, November 14, 2014, 108 days, almost three and a half months new depending on how we calculate the equinox. There is a distilling of awareness and attention, a distinct and growing capacity to balance, to see, to be startled by a sharp sound or emotion and reaching to grasp. Carly’s attention, how stimulation moves from her eyes into her brain creating intention, extending down her arm, past the elbow and wrist to the outreached hand, tiny fingers grasping is today’s lesson.

Themes: 
brain
imagination
intelligence
pleasure
self image

Motherless Mothers, Violence & Brain disorders

After fifty years Attachment Theory is no longer a theory. Decades of research confirm; the nature and quality of a human being’s earliest relationships shape the body and the brain for a lifetime.

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abuse-neglect
bonding
brain
violence

Reincarnate Happiness

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parenting
play
pleasure

Pleasure: The Glue That Bonds

Ouch, too hot, said Goldilocks, pain. Ouch, too cold. Ahhhh, just right, she said, pleasure. As I have come to understand, mostly due to my twenty-year friendship with James W. Prescott, PhD, pleasure and pain rest at the foundation of our development as human beings. We are drawn to and seek experiences that are comforting, pleasurable and we avoid, withdraw from sensations that are painful. Not very complicated, obvious, but we forget.

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bonding
parenting
pleasure

BETRAYAL OF ABUSED AND NEGLECTED CHILDREN & MOTHERS



By the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development, National Institutes of Health (NICHD / NIH):

Letter to Vice-President Biden; Senators Carper and Coon

We are a Violent Nation. Congress created the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development (NICHD) on October 17,1962 with enactment of PL 87-838 to conduct and support of research and training relating to maternal health, child health, and human development, including research and training in the special health problems and requirements of mothers and children..."(Sec 441).

Themes: 
abuse-neglect
brain
sensory deprivation

What I learned today with Carly Elizabeth - Nine weeks old

In the quiet moments when Carly melts into my arms there is attunement, resonance, shared meaning, trust, respect, appreciation, curiosity, wonder, all moving, changing and so much more, embodied, nonverbal, silent. This silent, reciprocal attunement is the essence of bonded-attachment and that creates a safe-place for play.

Themes: 
bonding
culture
parenting
play

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